Do you know difference between Worrying and Thinking?

You are about to attend your  first ever board meeting. Your overall performance has been excellent, but your superiors have pointed out a few flaws nevertheless. You naturally end up worrying, and the resultant fear and anticipation of  rebuke cause your performance to get affected adversely. | Essential points are missed out on, and the meeting fails to arrive at a decisive strategic conclusion. This causes a buildup of stress and produces even more worry, creating a vicious cycle of negativity.

This horror story  was caused not by earlier flaws, but by worry itself. Had objective thinking taken over, the board meeting would’ve concluded successfully. Thinking and worrying are extremely similar processes, but the few tiny difference among them  results in a hugely varying impact. These include:

• Objectivity: As we have already seen, worry is always accompanied by doubt and fear. These emotions prevent us from objectively analyzing the situation. Rational thinking would’ve led us to believe that the meeting would’ve been a success, because of our overall excellent performance. Then Mr. Worry came along and  caused the spotlight to shine upon the few flaws, resulting in our poor performance at the meeting.
  Thinking is always a balanced process. The various aspects of each situation are carefully taken into account. This allow us to develop a clearer and more accurate image of the situation. On the other hand, worry’s deadly allies create a fog of despair which prevents us from taking the right decisions.

 

• Self-belief: “Confident people never worry, they always think”, is a very apt saying in this regard. Rational thought might seem like a process devoid of emotion. In reality, it is only devoid of negative emotions, but extremely welcoming of positive ones. And the right dose of self-belief is one of the most positive of emotions. It provides us with the will to motivate ourselves and rely on rational thought under even highly difficult circumstances. In the process, worry is dissipated and the seeds of success are planted.

 

• Moderation: Confidence is a great driver of success, but only when  present in moderate amounts. Rational thinking is a soup of innumerable emotions(confidence, self-restraint, passion), but even the slightest imbalance turns it sour and causes worry. The thinker carefully prevents any single emotion from clouding his mind.

 

 

 

Not only is worrying fruitless, but it is also harmful. Research has revealed that worriers are several times more likely to develop diabetes, heart disease and depression. Turning worriers into rational thinkers is thus the need of the hour. Eclipse Technoconsulting Global (P) Ltd. ‘s holistic stress management programs seek to do exactly that. Follow us on our journey of creating more happiness at #eclipseindia or Eclipsetech12.